Let-go means no competition, no struggle, no fight…
Real let-go is not against fight.
Real let-go is absence of fighting.
And you cannot mix real let-go with fighting attitudes, for the simple reason that the presence of let-go means the absence of a fighting attitude. How can you mix something which is present with something which is absent? Just as you cannot mix light and darkness, however great an artist you may be — you cannot mix light and darkness for the simple reason that darkness is only an absence of light. You cannot bring them together; only one can be present.
So the first thing to remember is that the basic attitude of every human being is to fight. So don’t think of it particularly as your problem. It will help you immensely to understand that it is a human problem. Then you can stand aloof and watch it, observe it, understand it.
Fighting is a basic attitude because it feeds the ego. The more you fight, the more your ego becomes stronger. If you become victorious the ego has great joy. You are giving life to ego by your victories. But on the other hand, as the ego becomes stronger, your being is receding farther and farther away from you.
As your ego becomes stronger you are losing yourself. You may be fighting and being victorious, not knowing at all that it is not a gain but a loss. Each child is taught to fight in different ways. Competition is a fight, to come first in your class is a fight, to win a trophy in a game is a fight. These are preparations for your life. Then fight in the elections, fight for money, fight for prestige. This whole society is based on fighting, competition, struggle, putting each individual against the whole.
So it is almost everybody’s situation. And then you listen to me about let-go.
Let-go means no competition, no struggle, no fight… just relaxing with existence, wherever it leads. Not trying to control your future, not trying to control consequences, but allowing them to happen… not even thinking about them. Let-go is in the present; consequences are tomorrow. And let-go is such a delightful experience, a total relaxation, a deep synchronicity with existence.
I am reminded of a parable. I call it a parable because it is so good it cannot be true. In the East, the name of Majnu is very famous. It is a Sufi story — perhaps nobody of that name existed, but it is irrelevant whether he existed or not. He has become the symbolic lover.
Majnu was a poor young man, with tremendous love and a great heart, and he fell in love with the richest man’s daughter. The marriage was not possible; even meetings were not possible. He could only see once in a while, from far away, his beloved, Laila. But the rumor about his love started spreading, and the rich man, the father of Laila, was afraid that it will contaminate the family’s name and he will not be able to find the right man for his daughter. So he left the village to go to a faraway country, where nobody will know anything about Majnu.
The day they were going, a great caravan… because he had so much money and so many things to take, hundreds of camels carrying things. Majnu was standing by the road, by the side of a tree, hiding himself in the foliage of the tree — because the father was so mad he even could shoot him, although he had not done anything. He had not even spoken to Laila.
He was standing there just to see her for the last time. It was enough for him that she was happy and healthy — and he would wait. If his love has any power, she will come back. There was tremendous trust in him. He had seen the love, the same flame that was burning in his heart, in the eyes of Laila too. Laila was also searching and looking all around from the camel she was riding. She knew Majnu must be waiting somewhere on the way, and then she saw him hiding under a tree in its thick foliage. For a moment, without a single word or gesture, they were one; and then the caravan passed.
But for Majnu time stopped then and there. He remained standing by the side of the tree waiting and waiting. It is said years passed. Laila came, but came a little late. She enquired; people said, “We have never heard about him. Since you left he has not come to the town again.”
She rushed to the tree where she had left him. He was still there, but a strange thing had happened — he had become one with the tree. That’s why I say it is a parable: it is too good to be true. He relaxed so utterly because there was nothing else to do but to wait. He relaxed with the tree, and slowly, slowly they started merging with each other. The tree became his nourishment; they were no longer separate, they became one. Branches grew out of his body. He was no longer hiding under the foliage; the foliage was on his body — beautiful leaves and beautiful, fragrant flowers.
Laila could not recognize him. But the whole tree was saying only one thing, “Laila… Laila!” She was getting mad, and asking, “Where are you hiding?” And the tree said, “I am not hiding. Waiting so long, doing nothing, and just being relaxed, I have become one with the tree. You came a little late.
“What was going to happen between us has happened between me and the tree. We were going to become one — that was not acceptable to destiny perhaps. But I was ready to relax in the moment, without thinking of any consequences. And I am happy that you are alive, still young, and more beautiful. But I am gone, far away. I am immensely happy… alone, relaxed, in a let-go.”
To me, let-go means you are not fighting for anything in life, but giving everything to life to take care of. You say “let-go seems to be natural.” It only `seems’… because your whole conditioning is against it. You have been brought up for millions of years to fight. Fighting, either you can be defeated — which will create a wound, which will create revenge — or you can be victorious; which will again create another kind of wound. That is the ego. In either case you are a loser. Defeated you lose, victorious you lose. In either case you are going farther away from yourself.
Let-go has not been taught to people because it will go against the whole structure of the society — which is based on competition and fighting, where everybody is your enemy. Even your friend is your enemy, even your wife is your enemy, even your children are your enemies, because everybody is trying to snatch as much from you as possible.
And the same thing you are trying to do. The world of misery is created because everybody is snatching things from everybody else. It is not a peaceful, silent, loving existence; we are still barbarous and animalistic.
Let-go is totally a different approach. Its first step is dropping the ego, remembering that you are not separate from existence: with whom are you fighting? You are not separate from people: with whom are you fighting? With yourself… and that’s the root cause of misery. With whomsoever you are fighting, you are fighting with yourself — because there is nobody else.
Let-go is a deep understanding of the phenomenon that we are part of one existence. We cannot afford to have separate egos; we are one with all. And the all is vast, immense. Your understanding will help you to go with the whole, wherever it is going. You don’t have a goal separate from the whole, and the whole has no goal. It is not going anywhere. It is being simply here.
The understanding of let-go helps you to be simply here, without any goals, without any idea of achievement, without any conflict, struggle, fight, knowing that it is fighting with yourself — which is simply foolish.
Let-go is a deep understanding.
It is not an act that you have to do.
Every act is part of the world of fight. That which you have to do is going to be a fight. Let-go is simply understanding.
And then a silent relaxation, flowing with the river, unconcerned where it is going, unworried that you can get lost… no anxiety, no anguish, because you are not separate from the totality, so whatever is going to happen is going to be good.
With this understanding you will find there is no mixing: understanding cannot mix with ignorance; insight into existence cannot mix with blindness; consciousness cannot mix with unconsciousness.
And let-go cannot mix with different kinds of struggles — that is an impossibility.
Just let it sink within your heart, and you will find a new dimension opening up, in which each moment is a joy, in which each moment is an eternity unto itself.