For thousands of years continuously, the woman has been crippled, crushed, exploited…OSHO
We have been filled with ambitions, desires — to possess, to become powerful, to have as much money as you desire, as you dream of. These are the problems, not the other — the other only reflects your problems because he's so intimate and close by.
The husband, if he is a human being, should stop calling himself a "husband." A wife, if she understands, should stop calling herself a "wife." More than friendship, you are bound to fall into a ditch; more than friendship, it becomes a bondage. Then both are fighting tooth and nail, directly and indirectly, with a single aim: to dominate the other, to reduce the other to the status of second.
It is not possible. If it were possible, people would have solved the problem — although the solution would not have brought blessings. It would have stopped the continuous fight for monopoloy — although even if the fight stops, you will not be blissful. You will be almost dead, sad. At least before, there were excuses for your fight; now even those excuses are gone.
The very word `husband' is ugly; it means a farmer. It was thought that the man is the farmer and the woman is the earth, so he sows his seeds in the woman and she goes on reproducing. He created the myth that he is the real producer, the farmer; and he pushed the woman — who is the real creative force — to a status that is almost to the point where it becomes inhuman and starts hurting.
In many countries, the woman has never been given voting rights. In many countries, the woman is not accepted as having a soul; she is just to serve nature. In almost all countries, the woman is not expected to enter certain temples, certain sacred holy places, because she is unholy.
For thousands of years continuously, the woman has been crippled, crushed, exploited — almost murdered. And yet, she is still the backbone of humanity. Without her, there is no humanity. Without man, there is a possibility for humanity to exist, because the function of man biologically is negligible. It is the function of a doctor's syringe. And the syringe can do it more hygienically than you could ever do it.
This situation for thousands of years has gathered too much revolt in the unconscious of the woman. That revolt comes out in small matters — in nagging, in fighting. The matters are almost immaterial, and people are continuously fighting for them. It seems the fighting is material. They need any excuse to fight, it doesn't matter what the excuse is.It is a painful stage, because half of humanity is not even accepted as human.?