If the lover thinks the other will be offended, then the intimacy is not yet deep enough….OSHO
When two lovers are really open to each other, when they are not afraid of each other and not hiding anything from each other, that is intimacy.
When they can say each and everything without any fear that the other will be offended or hurt.
If the lover thinks the other will be offended, then the intimacy is not yet deep enough.
Then it is a kind of arrangement, which can be broken by anything.
But when two lovers start feeling that there is nothing to hide and everything can be said, and the trust has come to such a depth where even if you don't say it the other is going to know, then they start becoming one.