There are two types of relationship:
one is of fight, fear, hatred — this creates ego –
the other is of love, compassion, sympathy.
These are the two types of relationship.
Wherever love is, fight ceases, ego drops.
This is why you cannot love.
It is difficult, because to love means to drop the ego, to drop yourself.
Love means not to be.
So look at the strange phenomenon:
lovers go on fighting. How can lovers fight?
If there is love fight should drop and the ego will disappear.
Your whole being thirsts for love, your whole mind thirsts for ego.
So you make a compromise: you love and you fight.
The lover becomes an intimate enemy, but the enmity remains.
All lovers go on fighting and go on loving.
They have made a compromise: in some moments they are loving, then they drop the ego.
But the mind feels uneasy, and again the mind starts fighting.
So in the morning they fight, in the evening they make love, and the next morning they fight again.
Then a rhythm of fight and love is created.
True love means the fight has disappeared, the two have become one.
Their bodies exist separately but their being has mingled.
The boundaries are lost, there is no division.
There is no 'I' and no 'thou', no one exists.