The whole humanity should live in a kind of loving atmosphere which allows freedom…OSHO
The world has been teaching girls: You should run away and allow the boys to chase you. But don't run away so fast that they lose hope. Run away and then wait. Let them come closer and then run away and wait… finally to be caught…. It is just to give you a sense that you are responsible for whatever happens afterwards.
Because the girl was running away, you chased her, you caught her. And in fact the truth is that she is managing it so that you can chase her. She is managing it so that you can catch her. So she remains higher than you and she will remind you again and again, "I was not after you, you were after me."
But there is no need for chasing and being caught. People should be more understanding and approach each other saying, "I have something in my heart that starts dancing when I come close to you. If you also have something of the same perhaps we can have a few days…" And life is not so long!
One famous Urdu poem is….
Life consists of four days.
Two are for preparation and two for waiting.
Waiting for what? Preparing for what? In a small life don't waste time in unnecessary moralities, puritan ideologies, preachers and their teachings… They are all hypocrites.
Be authentic and say to a man or a woman, "I love you. I like your eyes, I like your face… That does not mean that I will like everything of you, but I will try to avoid those things. If you have any sensitivity for me, I am available. I don't ask for your totality nor should you ask for my totality."
That's what you are asking: totality. Poor human beings cannot be total; and things go on changing. Today what seems to be great love, tomorrow will not seem to be so great. And the day after tomorrow, it will be ordinary repetition and you will start looking here and there for how to have that great totality again.
There is no totality, there is only illusion of totality in life. The man of intelligence understands that life is not perfect and is not meant to be perfect. It is imperfect. We are all imperfect beings. So although there may be nooks and corners which you don't like about a person, there may be things that you do like…. Don't wait for a dream girl. Be more realistic and try to understand that everybody has faults, and to love someone does not mean that you have to change that person. To love that person does not mean that you have to destroy his freedom.
To love simply means that you feel that something clicks within the two of you. As long as that dance within your heart remains, good. I have always considered that every couple should have a weekend, just a change. I don't see that there is any immorality in it, but simply intelligence. Why force people to live in boredom? Such a small life… four days and they too are wasted in boredom. And after the weekend your own wife will again be…"My God, she looks beautiful!"
Every woman is almost the same and every man is almost the same. The non-essentials are different: somebody has a beard and somebody has not…. The whole humanity should live in a kind of loving atmosphere which allows freedom so that boredom does not set in.